In a Tuesday (Sept. 17) blog post, Rory Feek shared an update on his ongoing dispute with his two adult children, Heidi and Hopie Feek.
The blog post, titled “Canceled,” addresses the public turmoil that the Feek family has faced in the weeks since Heidi and Hopie announced their intention to take legal action against their father regarding the safety of their 10-year-old sister, Indiana.
“There are things that my older daughters and I need to work out together. Right now we’re at an impasse on how that’s ever going to happen,” Feek writes in his blog post.
“I drove down to Florence, Ala., where they live about a week and a half ago and knocked on Heidi’s door with two bouquets of peace lily flowers, and hopes that we might be able to sit down and talk,” he continues, “or better yet, I’d just sit and listen to whatever they wanted to say and maybe have the chance to give them a hug and at least try to show them how much I love them.”
Feek says no one answered the door, even though he saw cars in the driveway, so he left the flowers at their doorstep and went home.
Though Feek says that he arrived at the house in hopes of mending bridges, his daughter Heidi tells People that the unexpected visit scared them. She wasn’t home, she explains, but her husband Dillon and sister Hopie were. She claims that Hopie started having a panic attack when she saw the truck in the driveway.
“Regardless of the intention, it came off as intimidating,” Heidi states. “We’ve set really clear boundaries. We have such a hard time communicating with him and feeling heard that we really don’t feel like it’s possible without a third party.”
She also indicates that Dillon went to the door after approximately four minutes. He first made brief phone calls to Heidi and to their lawyer. By the time he opened the door, she says, Feek had driven away.
In his blog post, Feek says that he received a text from Heidi on the way home, which said, “We are only willing to talk with you with a licensed therapist or attorney or both.”
“And that is where the impasse comes in,” he writes. “They believe that it’s the job of … someone with a doctorate, law or masters degree to repair what is broken in our family. And I believe that it’s our job. Our responsibility to put our differences aside, sit down together as adults and do everything in our power to fix what is broken and mend what needs repaired.”
Heidi tells People that she believes that, if her dad truly wanted to mend their relationship, he would have abided by the communication preferences she says they’ve shared with him previously.
“[Visiting] was never for us, because if he was trying to reach us, he would do it in the way we’ve requested of him, or at least text us and say, ‘Hey, I’m coming,'” she notes.
Feek married schoolhouse teacher Rebecca in July, eight years after the death of Indiana’s mother, Joey Feek. In his most recent blog post, he writes that his family life has been a bastion of peace during an outwardly tumultuous time.
“While all this has been taking place online, here at our farm in our actual physical lives, we’ve been having the greatest time settling into our new life as a married couple and family,” Feek says.
He also notes that his daughter is doing “super well.”
“Indy’s been having lots of fun doing 5th grade homeschooling with Rebecca, who she has been calling ‘Mama’ now for about six weeks,” he writes.
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